Friday, January 2, 2009

Linda and Steve's Journey Together

Have you watched "The Secret"?

This must see movie absolutely presents one of the best cases ever for the Law of Attraction.

"What we focus on, we attract"....
"Our Thoughts become Things”....
"As a man Thinketh, so is He"….
“Likes Attract”.....

Linda, very happy and self-sufficient by herself, decided to play with attracting someone "beyond amazing", not really believing anyone like that existed.

Steve, happy alone and very content to live the non-responsible life of a traveling musician unless "the perfect woman" was somehow delivered without any effort on his part.

Both therefore felt released from ever worrying about getting married again. Famous last words!

The universe pulled a fast one and POW!!!

The "perfect woman" and the one "so beyond amazing" collided, over a buffet table at a network marketing companies international convention. Neither could muster the strength to run in the opposite direction and in five short weeks Linda moved her screaming children 1,300 miles to St George Utah. Steve left his four adult children in Salt Lake City and the two would get married the next week, leaving family and friends sure that they had lost their minds!

Thus began our incredible journey together.

As we came together in such a short period of time we wondered how our unique talents and personalities might blend.

- Having independent of each other, built successful businesses, with over 50 years of combined home based and traditional business experience.

- We have both “had it all” and “lost it all”.

- Lived through a terminal illness.

- Survived the divorce process.

- Supported a family as a single stay-at-home mom.

- Have 9 children to attend to and blend in a second marriage.

One of our frequent topics of discussion was:

“What was the REAL SECRET to building successful relationships and business?”

Intense trial and error over the years had taught us both that:

Ø Gratitude is the best cure for anything

Ø Needing Approval from or Control of another person is a sure recipe for Disaster

Ø It is not the things going on around us that cause distress but our reaction to them. Carl Jung was right:

“If things go wrong in the world, something is
wrong in me. Therefore, if I am sensible,
I shall put myself right first.”

Ø When we Change the way we Feel about the World we are Experiencing, the World we Experience Changes.

Ø “Withholding” Thoughts or Feelings under the guise of Protecting someone you Love is the best way to fall out of Love

Ø Feelings of Joy and Happiness come from the Love we Give and NOT from that which we Receive

We still can’t wipe the smiles off our face as we feel so blessed to now be in a relationship with someone that is so easy to feel love for. Keeping our relationship alive has always felt effortless. (It is that “no with-holds” thing).

We accepted this as a wonderful gift, knowing that our real growth would come from learning to feel the same way about the people in our lives that are not so easy to love.

We were excited to discover that we both shared a passion for sales, marketing, business ownership and network marketing. We love sharing and mentoring others in experiencing the lifestyle those industries offer.

We also discovered that we were both at a loss in how to really improve the less than 5% success rate in those industries. We set out to find an effective solution to this tragedy.

What was missing from the many formulas for success that were being taught? How do you teach people the mindset necessary to succeed?

Did we need to just accept the fact that less than 5% of the people are “winners” and 95% plus “losers” when it comes to business? That a few people have “what it takes" but most of them don’t?

We Knew That Wasn’t True

We had learned and witnessed that if you are not making the kind of money or living the kind of life you want, it is generally not because you don‘t know how, it is simply because at some level, you don't FEEL or BELIEVE you can or should.

We are controlled by FEELINGS, BELIEF’S and DECISIONS - Conscious or Unconscious - that keep us in our "Comfort Zones" and thus at our current level of income and happiness.

They are the roadblocks that keep you STUCK and your odds of thinking, affirming or beating that BLOCK away is.... well, you know how well it's worked so far. It is the reason we sabotage our success and so many of us are in “Group”

Until you change your FEELINGS, BELIEFS and DECISIONS about money or love or heath and REMOVE the BLOCKS, you will struggle with attracting a positive abundance of it into your life!

Are you getting the picture?

Have you ever noticed when you decide once and for all to lose 10 lbs by Sept. 1, you end up gaining 5?

Or you set a goal to get out of debt and suddenly you see every amazing, once in a lifetime, bargain on the plasma TV you have been dying for, with financing @ 0% for a year. Then the furnace or air conditioner dies leaving you forced to finance a new one. And on it goes.

There is an explanation.

It is called "Psychological Reversal" or Self-Sabotage. Your sub-conscious mind immediately kicks in to keep you safe, to keep you in your "comfort zone".

It starts by saying something like, "Here we go again" or "How many times have you tried that?" or "That will never work" or "Don't be Stupid!" or "You didn't fall for that again...”

That is Psychological Reversal taking over.

So where do we get these so called “comfort zones”? My conscious mind has no problem saying “I want more income, more love, more motivation and drive”. Why don’t I “just do it”?

Why can't you just "Pull yourself up by your boot-straps and get to work?" (another belief that doesn't work).

Why don't you just "snap out of it", decide what you really want and take action?

If you have done any psychotherapy or emotional work, you may be familiar with the term “Inner Sentence” or “Core Belief”.

These feelings, beliefs and decisions are formed by the time you reach 6 to 8 years old and they determine many of your decisions and choices you make in your adult life. Like whom you marry, how much money you make, how happy you are allowed to be, if you are superior or inferior, if you are a martyr or a victim.

Depending on what you have decided, as a small child; who you are and what you deserve, you will make decisions and choices to support your “Core Belief” and keep you in your “Comfort Zone”.

You might call those unconscious feelings, beliefs and decisions the “writing on our walls”. From the time of our birth, people all around us are writing on our walls. They say things like, “Hurry up! You are so slow.” “Don’t be stupid” etc. Then we make a decision about ourselves, with our child mind, and we believe all that graffiti to be the truth about us.

So What Can You Do About It?

The good news it there are some very effective methods you can use to change your limiting beliefs.

Discover them at:

The Acceptance Book by Steve Stay
The 40 day - Three Step Personal Acceptance Experiment

Steve wrote this book for himself as a reminder of the 40 Day Experiment that transformed his life and career. Included is a section on a new way of experiencing and succeeding in Network Marketing.

Accept Abundance by Linda Stay

Linda shares our favorite new breakthrough technique with which you can locate and blast through limiting feelings, beliefs and decisions at mach speed.

Discover a technique that acts like an eraser, wiping the walls clean of hidden limiting feelings, beliefs and feelings and replaces them with feelings, beliefs, decisions, thoughts and speech that serve you more kindly.


  1. I am very supportive of your family, especially your sons.

  2. A valuable post and it much helpfull to all.Thanks a lot for your post.

    Karim - Positive thinking